Why We Do a Yearly Marriage Retreat (for Two)
Six and a half years ago I had the privilege of saying, “I do” to a tall, gentle, steadfast, godly man.
My young 22 year-old-self did not understand what a catch he truly was. All I knew was that God was in it.
Now, three kids later, I am still learning to mine this precious relationship for all it has to offer. We’re still getting to know one another, deepening trust and learning to serve each other sacrificially.
Part of being married is being comfortable, secure and safe.
Another part of being married is stretching, growing, reflecting and setting an intentional path together.
Before tying the knot, my then-fiancé and I took advantage of, what turned out to be, an impactful premarital counseling program. For ten weeks, we met with a godly couple who loved us, prayed for us, sought God on our behalf and knew us well.
Through this time we gleaned insight, ideas and direction. We learned to know ourselves and each other better. Throughout this time, the expectation of “work and intention” in marriage was set.
Of the many little gems we walked away with, the idea of an annual marriage retreat is one of my favorites. I don’t mean a marriage retreat that a church might plan, filled with conference speakers, community and structured activities, but rather a simple annual getaway –just the two of us.
What do I mean by “Marriage Retreat?”
A marriage retreat, as I’m describing it, is much more than a mere vacation.
A vacation is focused only on rest and recreation. Although these elements are certainly a part of a marriage retreat, they are secondary.
Instead, a marriage retreat is time to step away from the noise of daily life in order to reflect on the state of one’s marriage and to make a plan for how to best move forward.
This is a time to evaluate its current trajectory and make conscious decisions about where we want it to go in the next year.
What’s more, we set a plan for how we will get there. It is an opportunity to be proactive in our relationship. When we fail to be proactive, we are carried along with the current, without thought to where it may take us.
A marriage retreat is also a time to be together without the distractions of technology or children or household chores or jobs. In my experience, it is an incredibly valuable practice for a marriage.
Want to know how we do it?
You’ve just read the introduction “How to Plan a Marriage Retreat for Two eGuide!” What to read more?
This short ebook includes:
- A detailed description of the ins and outs of our yearly marriage retreat
- What to consider when planning your own marriage retreat
- The dos and don’ts of a marriage retreat for two
- Six different printable marriage exercises to add intentionality to your time!
The printable exercises included will help you:
- Evaluate Strengths and Weaknesses
- Identify Priorities
- Set Goals
- Define Focus
- Prayerfully Consider Each Child
- Create a Marriage Purpose Statement
Do you do any sort of yearly marriage check in? How does that work for you?