A Better Hope for Mothers When Life Feels Hard
Some seasons of mothering are hard.
The sleep-deprivation. The frustration. The realization of our own inadequacy. The crushing of our pride. The harder-than-we-wanted-to-work hard work. The many, many needs to be met. The stretched-thin-ness of it all.
Our body and soul react in ways we can’t always control: exhaustion, anxiety, unwanted emotions. We come to the end of ourselves and must cling to something.
Too often, in those moments, we encourage each other with nothing more than mushy hope.
A Mother’s Shifty and Unsure Hope
“It’ll get easier.”
Or “This too shall pass,” we say.
There is an air of age-old wisdom when experienced-mothers encourage new-mothers with these words. Sometimes young moms just need to simmer down, exercise some patience and endurance, and let things play out before determining that their life is officially over.
I’ve benefited from hearing that at times.
However, can we just admit that we don’t know what the future will hold?
That difficult season? –that might just be the easiest you or that young mom in your life will have it during the rest of your (or her) time on this earth. And that’s okay.
Because God is still good. Because in Christ we have a firm hope, an anchor for our souls that transcends any trail or hardship or challenge within this present reality.
When we put our hope in the passage of the trial, we sell ourselves tremendously short of the glorious truth of the gospel of grace.
We choose a soft and yielding hope, when a firm and secure hope is available to us –The hope that God’s promises are true and that God’s grace is sufficient. The hope that God is at work in ways we can’t comprehend, but we can trust. The hope of eternity-soaked blessing.
“It could always be worse.”
Could it? The hope of comparison is empty indeed for the Christ-follower.
The deeper truth is that those who suffer and endure, who face trials and remain faithful, will be rewarded in eternity. This eternal glory will FAR exceed the troubles we are now facing. We need to encourage each other with that truth!
So is “worse,” in fact, better in some mysterious way? Perhaps. One things is sure,
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:16-17
Rather than try to bolster our failing hearts with comparison, let’s make it our mission to faithfully walk out the life God has given us.
Let’s not disqualify ourselves from ministering to and discipling others (our own children and spouses included) because we didn’t sleep last night or things out of our control make life hard.
Instead, let’s look to Jesus for the grace needed to live for Him moment-by-moment. Let’s test the Solomon’s wisdom in Proverbs 11:25b which says,
“whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”
Perhaps comparison can provide some fresh perspective, but the hope it fosters is only as bright as the dimness of the other’s situation. This is undeniably wavering and unstable, since it all hinges on who we’re thinking about.
If we compare, let it be to open our eyes to our own apathy. Let it lead us to gratitude –not gratitude for our cushy lives –but gratitude for our firm hope in God’s unwavering promise for all those who trust Him.
I read a post just this week that has had me longing for heaven and grateful for God’s future justice and mercy. This is the hope that is sure. This is the hope that will not disappoint us.
A Mother’s Firm and Secure Hope
Mothers, if you find your current season of life to be hard, if you find yourself to be struggling, this is your hope:
God is good. He is faithful. His nature is unchanging.
God is completely trustworthy. His promises are true.
Your light and momentary troubles (and indeed, that is what they are) are achieving for you an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
God’s grace is sufficient for you. His power is made perfect in your weakness.
If you know a mother who is struggling, rather than telling her “it’ll all work out” or “it could be worse,” preach the gospel to her failing heart.
These are the words soaked in life and truth. And God will move in.
Romans 5:3-5 says,
“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”
Those very trails and sufferings, when lived out in trust and faithfulness, will develop in us the very thing we long for, the very thing we need most –hope! And that all because of God’s love poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit.
There is supernatural work at play in your mothering –and never more than in the suffering of it. Press into God and trust Him as you persevere and choose joy!
*reposted from April 12, 2016
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