9 Things I Learned Growing Up in the Country (That I’m Applying to My Life in the Suburbs)

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9 lessons I learned growing up in the country

This is a generalization of my own experiences.

The older I get, the more I look back and appreciate my country upbringing.

There is something undeniably grounding about land, fresh air, old-fashioned values and hard work.

Since moving the suburbs of a big city upon getting married in 2009, I’ve often mulled over whether I’m a country-girl or a city-girl at heart.

Ultimately, I’ve learned to accept that there are going to be advantages and disadvantages to life anywhere. I don’t over-think it too much. I’ve decided that what matters is choosing contentment and following God’s leading wherever He puts me.

But I am also grateful for the lessons I learned growing up on a farm outside of a small town in rural Missouri.

And I’ve realized how much these roots influence my desire for a simpler life right here in suburbia. They apply to life anywhere.

Things I Learned Growing Up in the Country

1. Kids don’t need a bunch of manufactured toys.

In fact, rocks, sticks, heaps of gravel, shovels, wildflowers, woods and mud make great toys.

Oh, and brothers and sisters are pretty fun too.

There were often no neighbor kids nearby, so my siblings and I spent the summers gallivanting around the countryside together, wading in the creek, riding horses, creating elaborate hideouts in the woods, catching fireflies and playing hide and go seek among the hay bales.

We had toys of course, I didn’t grow up lacking anything (we were grateful for those in the winter), but in the warmer seasons we often preferred outdoor adventures, and we found hours of entertainment in simple things.

2. Kids are capable of more than you think.

In fact, they need opportunities for independence.

It’s hard for kids to become responsible, motivated, capable or hard-working adults when they’re babied. But it’s almost impossible not to baby them when we live in fear.

However, that’s not the country way.

From a now-parent’s perspective, I’m somewhat amazed at the amount of independence my siblings and I were given, especially as we got older. And that was nothing compared to the independence my parents were given as children.

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Yet from the child’s perspective, it’s easy to see how good this was for me. We didn’t get hurt, we didn’t get into trouble. We rose to those occasions. It felt natural and, yes indeed, we were capable.

For more on this read: Don’t Underestimate Your Child’s Capabilities

3. The heart of hospitality is to serve others, not to impress them.

The country way is unpretentious. There is nothing but sacrifice and love involved in the open door and open table you find there. Making things fancy was not highly prioritized but it was shared with ease and generosity.

Company was to be served and enjoyed. Period.

I don’t know how many times friends, acquaintances or near-strangers who happened to be passing by were invited to join our dinner. The way my mom cooked, there was always plenty of food and a big farm table to serve it.

As us kids got older, there were many a holiday that stray friends or newly acquainted international students were welcomed in for meals and celebrations.

There was always room at the table for one more plate.

4. Kids can work.

By the time I was in upper-elementary school, I was spending weeks at a time during the summers helping with the family rental home business. We painted entire houses, deep cleaned them, scooped leaves out of gutters, weed-whacked lawns, …whatever we were told to do, that’s what we did. Because that’s what we were expected to do.

From around the age of nine, my younger brother was helping bale hay, work on farm equipment, fix fences, repair houses, etc. However, we did not work during the school year since our education was a top priority to our parents.

And we had plenty of leisure time too. In fact, that was the majority of our time, since my parents truly wanted us to enjoy childhood and focus on making good grades (my dad loves to remind me of all the days I slept in until 11:00).

Nonetheless, we also experienced hard work in seasons. That wasn’t too much to ask. It wasn’t fun, but it was good for us.

5. Fancy is overrated.

Fancy just doesn’t exist in the country as it does elsewhere. It’s a simpler life with simpler expectations.

And you know what, no one is the worse for it. Seeing both sides of the coin, I’m amazed by how little difference extravagance makes in one’s quality of life.

In fact, I can see how “fancy” breeds discontentment and lust for more, so we’re probably better off without it!

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6. Extended family are a priority.

Growing up, extended family were valued and involved. We would often drive literally across the country to visit a collection of great aunts and uncles and second or third cousins.

There was an effort made for connection. There was a valuing of family over convenience that stands out to me to this day. There was an understanding that we should know each other –care about each other’s lives.

Because, no matter how removed by time, distance or relation, we’re still family, and that is pretty cool.

7. The family that eats together stays together.

Country-style or family-style dining, where everyone gathers around a table and passes dishes of food, is how we ate every meal… breakfast, lunch and dinner. Every day.

And if someone couldn’t be home until later? We would pretty much wait for them within reason. Meals were at the center of family scheduling.

8. The home and family unit have a lot to offer.

Proximity limits involvement, as you can imagine.

So living in the country, you don’t do as many activities outside of the farm, home & church, especially during childhood. Life as a kid didn’t feel crazy. There wasn’t a lot of running around. There weren’t many scheduling conflicts to our frequent family road trips.

And we didn’t notice a lack there because “home” had a lot to offer us. A quieter life had a lot to offer us.

Instead my sister and I learned home arts, like sewing, gardening, canning and making a pie. My brother learned man-stuff. We spent time together. We played a lot.

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9. To the faithful God shows Himself faithful (2 Samuel 22:26)

While I know there is caution in equating church attendance with our standing before God (we can’t earn His favor or our salvation in this way… not even a little), I have seen the value of faithfulness.

Country churches aren’t perfect. There are no flashing lights or large-scale productions to entertain. There are plenty of excuses not to go.

But the country way that I’ve experienced is a steely determination to stick out difficult seasons of life and simply be there, believing that is God’s desire.

The country way is faithfulness. Week after week, year after year. Taking the good with the bad and making the most of it. Loving one another. There’s a legacy in that.

And I’ve seen firsthand how God rewards this faithfulness, when done with a pure heart, overtime.

He is faithful to the faithful.

And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. Hebrews 10:25 (NLT)

 

Who else grew up in the country with a similar or different experience?

 

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11 Comments

11 Comments on 9 Things I Learned Growing Up in the Country (That I’m Applying to My Life in the Suburbs)

  1. Heidi
    June 6, 2017 at 10:38 PM (4 months ago)

    My husband and I are in the process of deciding on a location to raise our children. We quite literally are trying to decide between city and country/small town (being an hour away from “the city”). I’ve been concerned that since we plan to homeschool, there won’t be as many opportunities for the children if we live farther from things like co-ops, homeschool sports teams, etc. and that we’d be doing them a disservice by being in the country. But wow, this post just set my heart at ease, thinking of all the things they could benefit from. Thank you, thank you for sharing this wisdom and insight!

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    • Katie Bennett
      June 7, 2017 at 9:18 AM (4 months ago)

      Heidi, my family actually just relocated back to the country this year, and we also started homeschooling our Kindergartner (now going into 1st grade). I mourned that exact same thing and worried about it so much, but I’ve found I actually prefer this quiet, simple environment. They have space to play outside and breathe. It’s hard to put into words, but it has been such a good move for us. God bless you!
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  2. Linda
    April 27, 2015 at 10:02 AM (2 years ago)

    Hey, it’s wonderful that you received benefit back from your post through the comments! And I pray you will have an easy delivery.

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  3. Michelle
    April 25, 2015 at 11:17 AM (2 years ago)

    Thank you for such a wonderful post Katie 🙂 Loved it! I grew up in the country too! Married we have rented a home in the country and we are now in the process of moving to our own 5 acres in the country!! Growing up I don’t think I truly appreciate the gift of growing up in the country. We always had a huge garden out of necessity, which meant weeding most days….I still hate weeding LOL! But the fruit of that labor and learning a strong work ethic is something that my parents instill in me and my siblings. To which I am very grateful for! My siblings and I had many acres to play, breath fresh air, enjoy walks and bike rides on country roads, and simply enjoyed the quietness of country living.

    I know country living isn’t for everyone, but it’s a perfect fit for us 🙂 Yes that means planning meals better (take out/ordering pizza is more difficult), going to town for errands is a couple hour commitment, and church will be 35-45 minute drive one way but I know nothing else…..and really do enjoy the simplicity of Country living!

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    • Katie Bennett
      April 25, 2015 at 4:36 PM (2 years ago)

      That gives me chills. I’m so excited for your move!

      I think I’m at a point in life where, while I love where I live and truly choose contentment here, I also feel such a draw back to country living. Your right, it is quiet. That’s the perfect word for it. And I have to say, I’m not at all surprised that you grew up in the country. That fits my impression of you totally. 🙂

      SO many blessings with your move!

  4. Linda
    April 24, 2015 at 8:59 PM (2 years ago)

    I love this post SO much. My husband sounded interested so I read it to him after dinner as we sat at the table. He suggested I send the website to a couple of my good friends. (That’s how much He liked it). Makes me wish I were on Facebook so I could share it with the world! There is so much truth and wisdom and even joy in each of your nine points. I have been drawn to your blog again and again to re read many of your posts. And really, the things you have been advocating in those previous posts are things that help to produce these “country” benefits in children and families who live in town. Thank you so much for putting it out there. And it was fun to have a little peek into your childhood!

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    • Katie Bennett
      April 25, 2015 at 4:30 PM (2 years ago)

      Linda, I can’t tell you how much your sweet comment encouraged me. In fact, I read it to my husband last night. Your kind words truly blessed me. I can’t thank you enough for that. Bless you!

  5. Kelly
    April 23, 2015 at 8:45 PM (2 years ago)

    I LOVE all of this! Especially the portion about the heart of hospitality!
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    • Katie Bennett
      April 25, 2015 at 4:03 PM (2 years ago)

      Thank you Kelly! It’s something I think about often. True godly hospitality is such an amazing, life-giving thing, but since I’m lacking in the “finesse” of hospitality, it’s easy for me to feel disqualified. But no, it’s not about impressing others and it never was. 🙂

  6. Kirsten
    April 23, 2015 at 4:50 AM (2 years ago)

    Me! I grew up in rural Tennessee and have spent my adult life in big cities. And I times I’ve appreciated the ha do ess of a particular store nearby – not two hours away – or the fact that going to a movie didn’t take all frickin’ day. But now, with kids, I miss the slower approach to life. And the approach to life where fewer folks cared about labels and brands and just lived.
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    • Katie Bennett
      April 23, 2015 at 7:11 AM (2 years ago)

      I am totally with you Kristen! There are so many fun things about living in/near a city, but it’s also hard for me to relate to the desire for name brands, coordinating athletic outfits, granite counter tops and the perfectionism of city living. Since I have none of those things, I have often felt that I don’t quite fit in. It’s been a pretty long adjustment culturally, but through the amazing people in my life here and God’s slow work of acclimating me, I finally feel at home. Thanks for sharing!!

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